Ukukhetha izintombi
Uma kuziwa ekukhetheni izintombi, kufanele uqaphele futhi uqaphele ngokukhetha kwakho.
Izintombi yizo ezingaba abagqugquzeli bangempela futhi baseseke ezimpilweni zethu.
Ngakho-ke, kunconywa ukukhomba izindlela ezibalulekile nezici zokukhetha.
Umngane okhuthazayo angase abe esinye sezici ezinomthelela ekudaleni impilo ephumelelayo nezinzile.
Uma ubona kumngane wakho ikhono lokukhuthaza ukusungula nokushintsha izimpilo, angase abe isengezo esibalulekile kumephu yakho yobungane.
Nakuba umngane ohlakaniphile kuyilowo onombono nokuhlakanipha ekwenzeni izinqumo ezibalulekile.
Ungumuntu ongathembela kuye ukuthi acele iseluleko.
Uma umngane wakho enale mfanelo, angaba usizo lwangempela ekuphileni kwakho.
Ngokuqondene nomngane oqinile, ukwenza uzizwe uphephile futhi uzethemba futhi uyakusekela ezikhathini ezinzima.
Uma intombi yakho ingaba usekelo oluqinile kuwe ezikhathini ezinzima, lena imfanelo engase ibe nesinqumo ekukhetheni intombi efanele.
Okokugcina, asinakukhohlwa ukubaluleka kobungane obusekelwe ekuthembekeni.
Umngane weqiniso yilowo ongathembela kuye ngokuzethemba, futhi owabelana nawe ngamaqiniso nemibono ngobuqotho nangokwethembeka.
Uma ufuna umngane othembekile ozoba othandekayo kuwe, khona-ke ubungane obusekelwe ekuthembekeni bungase bube yisinqumo esiphelele.
Ngokukhetha abangani bakho ngokucophelela futhi uhlangabezane nemibandela engenhla, uzoqinisekisa ukuthi ubungane obuqinile nobuqinile.
Unganqikazi ukutshala isikhathi nemizamo ekukhetheni abangani besifazane abalungile abazoba isengezo esibalulekile empilweni yakho futhi babe ukusekelwa kwangempela ohambweni lwakho lomuntu siqu.
Into enhle kakhulu eshiwo ngokukhetha umngane?
Ubungane bubhekwa njengobunye ubuhlobo obubaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu, njengoba bumnika ukusekelwa nokusekela ngezikhathi ezinzima nenjabulo ngezikhathi ezinhle.
Kuye kwashiwo amazwi amaningi amahle ngokukhetha umngane, njengoba umngane othembekile ebhekwa njengomzalwane wesibili kumuntu, njengoba emenza abe nemizwa yobuzalwane nothando angenakuyithola kunoma ubani omunye.
Phakathi kwezinto ezinhle kakhulu ezike zashiwo ngokukhetha umngane inkondlo ka-Imam Ali bin Abi Talib eveza ukubaluleka kokukhetha umngane omuhle, lapho ethi, “Hlakanipha ekukhetheni umngane wakho, ngoba lokhu kukhetha kuzocacisa. ikusasa lakho.”
U-Imam Al-Shafi’i wabhala enye inkondlo eveza ukuzethemba ekukhetheni umngane ofanele, lapho ethi, “Umngane oxosha ukungabi khona kwakho ungcono kunesitha esikwesabayo.”
Futhi, imbongi u-Al-Qarawi yabhala amavesi amahle azichaza kangcono izimfanelo zomngane weqiniso, ithi kwelinye lamavesi, “Umngane wakho oseduze ungumphefumulo munye emizimbeni emibili ehlukene.
Imbongi uHassan bin Thabit yabheka umngane weqiniso njengesici esibaluleke kakhulu sempumelelo nenjabulo, njengoba yasho kwelinye lamavesi ayo: “Ngokuqinisekile, yeka ukuthi kuhle kanjani ukuthola umngane okusiza ukuba ulalele uNkulunkulu.”
Ukukhetha umngane ngokucophelela kubalulekile, njengoba umngane weqiniso kuyilowo okujabulisayo, okufisela okuhle, nongenamhawu ngawe.
Nguye futhi okusekelayo futhi ume eceleni kwakho ezikhathini ezinzima, futhi uyena futhi okhuluma ngokungagwegwesi nangokwethembeka phambi kwakho ngaphandle kokuhlotshiswa kwezinkulumo.
Umuntu kufanele aqaphele futhi acophelele lapho ekhetha umngane wakhe, futhi asebenzelane naye ngokwethembeka nangokuzethemba.
Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho umuntu ezokwazi ukwakha ubungane obuqinile obuyohlala isikhathi eside futhi bumnike injabulo nokuzinza ekuphileni kwakhe.
Kubaluleke ngani ukukhetha umngane?
Ukukhetha umngane kuyinto ehlakaniphile nedingekayo ekuphileni komuntu.
Umngane nguye osisekelayo futhi omelana nathi ezikhathini ezinzima nezilula, uyena owabelana nathi ngenjabulo nosizi, futhi asinike izeluleko nokwesekwa ohambweni lwempilo.
Ukholo nokuzinikela kubhekwa njengento eyisisekelo yokukhetha umngane. Kungcono ukuthi umngane azinikele ezimisweni zenkolo nasezenzweni ezinhle, ngoba umuntu omesabayo nokwesaba uNkulunkulu ngeke amkhaphele umngane wakhe noma amlimaze.
Kungcono futhi ukukhetha abangani abahle abangahluleli izindlela zethu zokuphila nezinkolelo, kodwa kunalokho ababekezelelayo futhi abamukele ukukhetha kwethu.
Umngane omuhle akazami ukusishintsha, kunalokho uyasamukela njengoba sinjalo, okunomthelela ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuqinile nobuqinile.
Ukubaluleka kobungani nakho kuvela endimeni yabo ekuphileni komuntu.
Umngane usiza ekunciphiseni imizwa yethu yesizungu futhi athuthukise umuzwa wethu wokuba ngabangane kanye nokuxhumana nabanye.
Ubungane buphinde bube nomthelela omuhle empilweni engokomzwelo nengokomzimba, njengoba umngane enesandla ekudambiseni ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka futhi akhulise izinga lenjabulo nokwaneliseka.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umngane angaba umthombo wokusekela nezeluleko, esingathembela kuye ezikhathini ezinzima, futhi asisize sihlele izinselele futhi sizuze impumelelo ezimpilweni zethu.
Akufanele sithathe inqubo yokukhetha abangani kalula futhi sikhethe abantu ngenhlanhla.
Kunalokho, kunezindlela ezithile okufanele sizicabangele lapho sikhetha abangane, njengenkolo nokulunga, ukwabelana ngezindinganiso nezithakazelo ezifanayo, nokuhloniphana nokwethembana.
Ngokukhetha umngane omuhle, siyaziqinisekisa ukuthi kukhona ozosisekela futhi asisekele kukho konke ukuphila kwethu, futhi afake isandla ekukhuliseni ukuziphatha kwethu nasekuzuzeni impumelelo nenjabulo ekuphileni.
Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha umngane kuyindaba ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu.
Yiziphi izici zomngane omuhle?
Umngane omuhle umuntu onemikhuba emihle nezimfanelo ezimhlukanisayo.
Umngane omuhle umuntu olalela umngane wakhe ngentshiseko nangentshisekelo, ngaphandle kokubheka ukusabela noma ukuphawula lapho ekhuluma.
Uyamthanda umngane wakhe futhi ufuna ukumtshela imizwa nemizwelo yakhe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umngane omuhle ubonakala ngokubonisa uthando nenjabulo ebusweni bakhe nokuvakashela abangane bakhe njalo, njengoba lokhu kungenye yezimfanelo ezihambisana nezindinganiso eziyisisekelo ezigcinwa emasikweni amaningi, njengokwethembana, ukwethembeka. , ukwethembeka, ukwethembeka, kanye nenani elixhumene.
Umngane othemba lokho akuthandayo nokwaziyo okubalulekile ubhekwa njengothembekile.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ehlukanisa ubungane beqiniso ukuthi abangane babo bathembekile.
Ngakho-ke, umngane omuhle umuntu oweluleka umngane wakhe ngesidingo sokunamathela endleleni efanele futhi agweme ukwenza imikhuba emibi.
Akameluleki ukuba ajwayele izindawo ezimbi, abheme, noma alale ebusuku.
Umngane omuhle futhi yilowo okhumbuza umngane wakhe ngeNkosi yakhe lapho emkhohlwa.
Nazi ezinye zezici zomngane omuhle:
- Unomqondo oqinile wobumina, futhi uyazethemba kuyena namakhono akhe.
- Uyabujabulela ubungane beqiniso, njengoba ethembekile futhi engagwegwesi ebuhlotsheni bakhe bomphakathi.
- Uyakwazi ukubaluleka kokwethenjwa futhi unokuzethemba okukhulu kuyena nakwabanye.
- Uyabasekela futhi uyabasekela abangane ezikhathini ezinzima futhi uyabakhuthaza ukuba bafinyelele imigomo yabo.
- Unekhono lokulalela ngokucophelela futhi aqonde umngane wakhe, futhi uyamukela imibono yakhe ngezandla ezimhlophe.
- Ubonisa isithakazelo nokukhathalela umngane wakhe ngokumbuza ngesimo sakhe, ngokulalela izinkinga zakhe, nangokuhlanganyela enjabulweni naselusizini lwakhe.
Ngamafuphi, umngane omuhle umuntu ojabulela ubuhlobo bomphakathi obuqinile nobuqinile, olinganiselayo phakathi kokubonisa isithakazelo, ukwabelana, ukwethembeka, nokwethembana.
Lapho abangane ababili benalezi zimfanelo, bakha ubuhlobo obuqinile nobuqinile obuyisisekelo sobungane beqiniso nokuhlanganyela okujabulisayo ekuphileni.
Liyini ithonya lomngane kumngane wakhe?
Ithonya lomngane kumngane wakhe libhekwa njengendaba ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu ngamunye.
Umngane omuhle unethonya elikhulu ekuphileni komngane wakhe, njengoba ehlala emkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke futhi amkhuthaze.
Nakuba umngane omubi ekhungatheka futhi enethonya elinamandla kumngane wakhe, angase amkhuthaze ukuba ayeke ukufunda, angabi nasithakazelo sokufunda, futhi aphuthe ngisho nesikole.
Umuntu uyakuthanda ngokwemvelo ukukhulumisana nokwakha ubungane, futhi umngane angathinta ubuntu bakhe ngendlela embi noma enhle, ikakhulukazi esemncane.
Uma umngane enegama elibi, kuzomkhuthaza ukuba enze izenzo ezimbi nezingalungile.
Umngane udlala indima enkulu ekuguquleni izindinganiso zomuntu siqu nezindinganiso, futhi uthonya iningi lokuziphatha kwakhe nendlela akhuliswe ngayo.
Ngakho-ke, umngane wethu wamanje uthinta izinga lobungane bethu besikhathi esizayo, njengoba isaga esithandwayo sisho: “Umngane oseduze ungcono kunomngane okude.”
Ithonya labangane lingaba nethonya elibi elinamandla, lize liqede ubungane ngokwalo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umngane omuhle ukuthonya kahle ukuphila komngane wakhe, njengoba emsiza futhi emsekela ezindabeni ezingokwenkolo nezingokomoya.
Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha umngane omuhle nokulondoloza ubungane naye kubaluleke kakhulu.
Kumelwe sikhumbule ukuthi isifiso sabantu sokukhuluma nokuvulela abanye izinhliziyo zabo singase sishintshe unomphela ngenxa yokukhashelwa umngane oseduze.
Ngokucabanga ngokungathi sína kwethonya lomngane kumngane wakhe, singaqaphela ukuthi uNkulunkulu ufisa ukuba umuntu afunde indlela yokukhetha umngane wakhe ngokuhlakanipha.
UNkulunkulu uMninimandla onke wakhuluma ngobungane ngendlela yabo enhle njengomthombo wesikhuthazo nokusekelwa ekuphileni kwabantu ngabanye.
Ingabe kuyadingeka ukuba nabangane?
Ngokusobala, isizungu siyinkinga ethinta abantu abaningi, kodwa ingabe kuyadingeka ngempela ukuba nabangane? Impendulo incike embonweni womuntu ngamunye nasezimweni zakhe.
Yebo, abangane babaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu.
Banikeza ukwesekwa nokusekelwa ngokomzwelo, futhi basenze sizizwe sithandwa futhi saziswa.
Baseceleni kwethu enjabulweni nasezinsizini, futhi bahlanganyela nathi okuhlangenwe nakho ekuphileni.
Futhi-ke, zisisiza ukuba sizuze impumelelo kanye nentuthuko yomuntu siqu.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele siqonde ukuthi ukuba khona kwabangane akuyona nje inombolo noma ubukhona obubonakalayo.
Kunalokho, kufanele igxile ebudlelwaneni benani langempela kanye nemibono eyabiwe.
Abangane beqiniso yilabo abasilalelayo, bacabangele imizwa yethu, futhi basisekele emibonweni nasemaphusheni ethu.
Bangabantu esibethembayo futhi esingaxhumana nabo futhi sihlanganyele ngokukhululekile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izizathu ezisenza sibe nomuzwa wokuthi asinabo abangane, akufanele sidabuke.
Singalandela izinyathelo ezintathu ezilula ukuze senze abangani abasha.
Okokuqala, kufanele sivulekele ukuxhumana nokuhlangana nabantu abasha.
Okwesibili, singabamba iqhaza emisebenzini nasemiphakathini ebhekelela izithakazelo nezinto esizithandayo.
Okwesithathu, kufanele sakhe ukwethembana futhi sakhe ubudlelwano obuqinile ngokunikeza ukusekela nokunakekela abanye.
Abangane bayisibusiso ekuphileni kwethu, futhi baneqhaza enjabulweni nasempumelelweni yethu.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi sitshale ebudlelwaneni bomphakathi futhi sakhe ubungane bangempela nobuqinile.
Kulapho kuphela lapho siyojabulela izinzuzo zobungane nokuxhumana kwabantu.
Yiziphi izinhlobo zobungane?
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zobungane obuhlanganisa abantu.Ubungani buthathwa bubalulekile empilweni yomuntu njengoba bunikeza induduzo, ukusekelwa ngokwengqondo, futhi bukhulisa inhlonipho nothando.
Nazi ezinye izinhlobo ezijwayelekile zobungane:
- Umngane oseduze: Lolu hlobo lobungane lubonakala ngokusondelana nokukhulumisana okujulile.
Abangane abalungile babelana ngemicabango nemizwa yabo futhi bayesekelana futhi bayezwana.
Lobu bungane buhlala isikhathi eside futhi budinga ukwethembana nokwethembeka. - Umngane oqotho: Lo mngane uthathwa njengohlobo olungcono kakhulu lomngane.
Uyazazi izimfihlo zomngane wakhe, akazivezi, futhi uhlala eseduze kwakhe.
Ukhanyisela umngane wakhe kuwo wonke amaphutha akhe, ameluleke ngobuqotho, futhi uba umngane oqotho kuye kuzo zonke izimo. - Umngane onezithakazelo ezifanayo: Lo mngane ubonakala ngokuthi wabelana ngezinto ozithandayo nawe.
Ungaba nesikhathi esimnandi naye futhi ujabulele ukwenza izinto enizithandayo ezivamile. - Umngane Wokuhlomula: Lolu hlobo lobungane luzuzisa izinhlangothi zombili.
Abangane bajabulela ubuhlobo bobabili lapho beshintshana njalo ngezinzuzo nemizamo.
Umngane owusizo ongathembela kuye ngezikhathi zesidingo futhi okunikeza usizo nokusekela. - Ubungane bengqondo: Lobu budlelwano bubonakala ngokukhulumisana kwengqondo nokucabanga okuvamile.
Abangane bashintshana ngemibono futhi bashintshisane ngemibono ngezihloko eziningi.
Lolu hlobo lobungane lusiza ukuthuthukisa isiko nokucabanga.
Lapho ubungane beqiniso bukhona ekuphileni komuntu, buthuthukisa injabulo nengqondo engokwengqondo.
Ukunakekela ukwakha ubungane obusezingeni kubalulekile ekwakheni ukuphila okunenjongo nenjabulo.
Umazi kanjani umngane weqiniso kumshisekeli wezinguquko?
Ukwazi umngane weqiniso kumshisekeli wenguquko kubalulekile ekuphileni kwethu komphakathi.
Abangane beqiniso bayasisekela futhi bayasikhuthaza futhi basamukela ngobuqotho njengoba sinjalo.
Nakuba abangane abashisekela izinguquko basebenzelana ngendlela ehlukile futhi bagxile ezithakazelweni zomuntu siqu.
Ekuqaleni, ubuhlobo beqiniso nomngane bungaba yibo lapho benikeza khona ukusekela nosizo ngezikhathi zobunzima.
Umngane weqiniso uyohlale ekhona ukuze akusize futhi akunikeze iseluleko esidingekayo nokusekela ezikhathini ezinzima.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umngane weqiniso uthembekile futhi uqotho.
Ubhekana nezinkinga nobunzima nawe futhi uveza imibono yakhe ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka.
Nakuba umngane othanda izinguquko egxile ezithakazelweni zakhe siqu futhi angase afihle imibono yakhe yeqiniso ukuze alondoloze ubuhlobo bakhe nawe.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umngane weqiniso ngeke enze sengathi uyazenzisa noma amkhohlise.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi kukhona umngane obonisa isithakazelo kuwe kuphela ukuze kuzuze yena futhi engenzi ngobuqotho nangokuvamile, khona-ke lokhu kungase kube umngane ozicabangela yena kuqala.
Okokugcina, umngane weqiniso akalindeli umusa kuwe ngemibandela.
Akaceli lutho ngembuyiselo noma alindele ukuzuza ngokuqondile kuwe noma ngokunaka kwakho.
Nakuba umngane ozicabangela yena yedwa engase anikeze usizo kunoma ubani ozuza izinzuzo zomuntu siqu, ngokuvamile akaziqondi izidingo nezimfuneko zakho.
Kafushane, umngane weqiniso waziwa kumguquli ngalezo zimfanelo ezinhle ezinjengobungane obuqotho, ukusekela ezikhathini ezinzima, ubungane obungelona inkohliso, nokusebenzelana okungagxilile ezithakazelweni zomuntu siqu.
Hlala wazisa ubudlelwano futhi ukhetha ubungane bangempela, obuthembekile obukukhuthazayo futhi obusekela ohambweni lwakho lwempilo.
Yiliphi izinga eliphezulu lobungane?
Okokuqala nokubalulekile izinga lomngane okhuluma naye.
Lo mngane ngumuntu ongakhuluma naye ngokukhululeka futhi aveze okungaphakathi kuwe ngokungagwegwesi.
Ubona kulo mngane othile okulalela ngokuqonda futhi anikeze ukwesekwa nesikhuthazo kuzo zonke izimo.
Lo mngane umi eceleni kwakho, uyakusekela ngezikhathi zenjabulo nezosizi, futhi wabelana nawe ngayo yonke imininingwane yempilo yakho.
Ubuhlobo bakho naye bukunikeza injabulo nenduduzo, futhi uzizwa ulondekile futhi uqiniseka lapho ukhuluma naye.
Okulandelayo kuza umngane oseduze, ongaba ngisho umngane wakho omthanda kakhulu.
Ungumngane owabelana naye izikhathi eziningi nezintshisakalo ezifanayo.
Lo mngane uyakuqonda futhi ukwazi kahle, futhi ngaye ungaba nguwe ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa noma ukugxekwa.
Ungumuntu ongathembela kuye kuzo zonke izinto, futhi ubukhona bakhe bukhethekile futhi buyakhuthaza empilweni yakho.
Ezingeni eliphezulu lobungane kufika ubungane bomoya ohlobene.
Lolu hlobo lobungane luhlanganisa ndawonye abantu ababili abanomuzwa wokuthi bayizingxenye ezimbili ezihambisanayo, njengoba behlanganyela umbono wempilo, izindinganiso, namaphupho.
Umlingani wakho womphefumulo ungumuntu okuqonda ngokuphelele ngisho nangezikhathi zokuthula.
Nobabili nizizwa nisondelene futhi nixhumene ngokujulile, ngakho ningakwazi ukuxhumana ngaphandle kwesidingo sokukhuluma.
Ubungane obuhlanganisa imiphefumulo emibili eqinile futhi bukwenze uzizwe ubalulekile, ukunethezeka, nothando olungenamibandela.
Sengiphetha, sithola ukuthi izinga eliphezulu lobungane yilelo elihlanganisa imiphefumulo efanayo nezinhliziyo ezinothando.
Kulobu bungane, uzwa uzwela olujulile nokusondelana ngokomoya, futhi ujabulele ukwabelana ngezinto ezijabulisayo, usizi, nakho konke okuhlangenwe nakho ekuphileni.
Kuwubuhlobo obuyigugu obufanele ukugcinwa nokunakekelwa, njengoba kunezela umoya omangalisayo nemibala egqamile endleleni yokuphila.
