Iyini incazelo yephupho ngokudubula umuntu ephusheni ngu-Ibn Sirin?

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu Ukudubula kuyinqubo ehlaselayo eyethulwa kusetshenziswa amathuluzi okulwa ahlukene, kungaba isibhamu, isibhamu somshini, isibhamu, nokunye.Ngakho-ke, lapho sihumusha iphupho lokudubula umuntu, sithola izincazelo eziningi ezahlukene ngokokubaluleka kwethuluzi ngalinye. Isibonelo, sithola ukuthi ukusebenzisa isibhamu esiwumshini ekudubuleni kungcono kunesibhamu, futhi ngeke sime.Indaba ikulesi sikhathi kuphela, kodwa omthetho bancike ekuchazeni kwabo ukubona umuntu edutshulwa ebudlelwaneni bakhe nomqashi. isibukeli, uyisihlobo, umngane, noma umuntu ongaziwa? Incazelo iyehluka kulokhu.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu

Ekuchazeni iphupho lokudubula umuntu, abahumushi banikeza izincazelo ezingathandeki, njengokuthi:

•  Ososayensi bathi ukudubula umuntu ephusheni kubonisa ukuthi umboni ungumuntu onolimi olubukhali olimaza abanye ngamazwi ahlabayo.
• Uma umphuphi ebona ukuthi udubula omunye wabazali bakhe ephusheni, khona-ke uyindodana engalaleli futhi iyabacasula.
• Ukubuka owesifazane oshadile edubula enye yamadodana akhe ephusheni kuwumfanekiso wokumthethisa nokumkhuza ngokuziphatha kwakhe okubi.
• Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ngephutha ephusheni kuwuphawu lokungabathembi abanye.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ngu-Ibn Sirin

Sikukhumbuza ukuthi u-Ibn Sirin wayengekho ngesikhathi sakhe ngokusakazwa kwezibhamu ezifana nesibhamu noma isibhamu ngakho-ke akazange akhulume nezincazelo zabo, kodwa esimweni sokukhuluma ngokuchazwa kwephupho lokudubula, sizothinta ukusetshenziswa kwesifaniso nokusesha incazelo yayo yokudubula ngamathuluzi okulwa ngokujwayelekile:

•  U-Ibn Sirin uthi uma umphuphi ebona ukuthi udubula umuntu futhi akamshayi, uhleba abanye futhi ekhuluma kabi ngabo ngasese.
• Ukudubula nokulimaza umuntu ephusheni lomuntu kuyinkomba yokubamba ithuba legolide elizoshintsha impilo yakhe ibe ngcono.
• U-Ibn Sirin uhumusha ukubuka lo mboni edubula umuntu ongaziwa njengophawu lokubuya kwesihambi esisuka lapho ayehlukana khona kanye nokuhlangana kwakhe nomndeni wakhe.
• Ngokuqondene nokudubula umuntu ephusheni elihlukanisile, kuyinkomba yesidingo sakhe soshintsho olukhulu empilweni yakhe.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu kwabesifazane abangashadile

Ukuchazwa kokudubula umuntu ephusheni le-bachelor kuyahluka ngokuya ngezinto ezimbalwa esizobhekana nazo kulezi zimo ezilandelayo. Akumangazi ukuthi sithola umehluko ezincazelweni zalo mbono:

•  Uma owesifazane ongashadile ebona ukuthi udubula umuntu futhi amshaye, khona-ke lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthandana kwakhe nomshado oseduze.
• Ukubona intombazane idubula umngane wakhe ephusheni kungase kubonise iqiniso elishaqisayo ngaye kanye nokuxabana naye.
• Ukudubula umuntu ngesibhamu ephusheni lombonisi kungase kumxwayise ngokuwela esilingweni nokungalaleli nokuqhelelana nokulalela uNkulunkulu ngenxa yamaphutha akhe enkolo.
• Izikhulu zithi ukuhunyushwa kwephupho lokudubula umuntu ngemuva kwabesifazane abangashadile kungase kubonise ukungabaza komndeni wakhe mayelana nokuziphatha kwakhe nokuthi kufanele azibuyekeze.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula nokubulala umuntu kweyodwa

•  Uma owesifazane ongashadile osebenzayo ebona ukuthi udubula abulale umphathi wakhe emsebenzini, uzothola ukukhushulwa emsebenzini wakhe futhi athathe isikhundla wonke umuntu aqhudelana naso.
• Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nomuntu odubula futhi abulale intombazane kubonisa ukuthi umbonisi uzothatha imithwalo yemfanelo emisha empilweni yakhe, okungenzeka kube umshado noma emsebenzini.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu wesifazane oshadile

•  Ukubona owesifazane oshadile edubula umyeni wakhe ephusheni kubonisa ukuqubuka kokuhlukana okuqinile phakathi kwabo okungase kubangele isehlukaniso.
• Kuthiwa ukubona kukankosikazi othile edubula omunye kungase kubonise ukuthi kukhona okuthile ngempilo yakhe yomshado afuna ukumtshela yona.
• Uma owesifazane oshadile ebona umyeni wakhe edubula omunye umuntu osebenza naye ephusheni, lokhu kufanekisela ukuthola imali kuye nokuthuthukisa izinga labo lezezimali lokuphila.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula owesifazane okhulelwe

•  Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula owesifazane okhulelwe kubonisa ukuthi uzoba nomntwana wesilisa.
• Uma owesifazane okhulelwe ebona ukuthi udubula umuntu ephusheni lakhe futhi engezwa umsindo wezinhlamvu, khona-ke lokhu kuyizindaba ezinhle kuye zokuzalwa okulula.
• Ukudubula nokulimaza umuntu ephusheni kubonisa ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi, ikakhulukazi uma kusezinyangeni zokugcina zokukhulelwa.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu wesifazane ohlukanisile

• Uma owesifazane ohlukanisile ebona ukuthi udubula umuntu ephusheni lakhe ngesibhamu, angase abhekane nezinkinga eziningi ekuphileni kwakhe.
• Ukubuka umbono edubula umuntu ekhanda ephusheni, njengoba kuyinkomba ecacile yokuthi ubhekene nenhlebo nokuhleba kulabo abasondelene naye, futhi akufanele abethembe.
• U-Ibn Sirin uthi ukudubula umuntu ephusheni lowesifazane ohlukanisile kufana nokunyundela abesifazane abamsulwa, ukucubungula udumo nodumo lwakhe, nokuhlambalaza isithunzi sakhe phakathi kwabantu.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu kumuntu

Incazelo yezazi zephupho lokudubula umuntu ephusheni lomuntu ihluke ngokusho kwethuluzi lokulwa elisetshenzisiwe, njengoba sibona kulezi zimo ezilandelayo:

•  Uma umphuphi ebona ukuthi udubula omunye wezihlobo zakhe ephusheni, lokhu kungase kubonise ukunqamula izibopho zobudlelwane.
• Kuthiwa ukubona owesilisa edubula umuntu ogulayo ephusheni lakhe kuwuphawu lokuthi sekuseduze ukuthi alulame futhi aqede ukugula.
• Ngokuqondene nokubuka umboni edubula umuntu esebenzisa isibhamu somshini, uzothola ingcebo enkulu yezimali, okungenzeka ibe yifa.
• Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu usebenzisa isibhamu somshini kumhambi wesifazane, okubonisa ukuthi uzofeza impango eminingi ekuhambeni kwakhe.
• Ngenkathi ukudubula umuntu ngesibhamu ephusheni lomuntu kungase kumxwayise ngomfelandawonye wezitha zakhe ngokumelene naye nokumenzela itulo.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ongaziwa kumuntu

Sizoxoxa ngezincazelo ezibaluleke kakhulu zezazi zezomthetho ngokubona indoda idubula umuntu ongaziwa ebuthongweni bayo, kanje:

•  Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ongaziwa kumuntu oshadile kungase kubonise ukuhlukana nomkakhe nesehlukaniso.
• Ukubona umkweletu edubula umuntu ongaziwa ephusheni kubonisa ukuthi uzokhipha izikweletu, asuse izinkathazo nezinkinga zakhe, futhi agcwalise izidingo zakhe.
• Ukudubula umuntu ongaziwa ekhanda ephusheni kungase kubonise umphuphi ukuthi uzovezwa ukungabi nabulungisa okunzima empilweni yakhe kanye nomuzwa wokucindezelwa ngenxa yomuntu onamandla osebenzisa igunya lakhe.
• Ezinye izazi zikholelwa ukuthi ukuhunyushwa kokudubula umuntu ongaziwa ephusheni kubonisa ukungahleleki komboni ekwenzeni izinqumo zakhe nokungalaleli iseluleko sabanye.
• Uma insizwa ibona ukuthi idubula umuntu ongaziwa ephusheni layo, khona-ke ayilawuli imizwelo yayo futhi ayinalwazi ngesimo sokuziphatha okufanele esimweni abhekene naso.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu futhi akafanga

• Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho lokudubula umuntu ongashonanga kuyinkomba yezixazululo ezingasebenzi ezinkingeni umbonisi abhekana nazo.
• Obona ukuthi udubula umuntu ongakafi, usuke ehluleka ukufeza izinhloso zakhe.
• Ukubona umphuphi edubula umuntu axabene naye futhi ongafanga kungase kumxwayise ngamandla esitha sakhe futhi umxwaye.
• Ukudubula umuntu ongazange alimale kungase kubonise ukungqubuzana kwengqondo okwenzeka ngaphakathi kombukeli kanye nomuzwa wakhe wokuntenga emizweni yakhe phakathi kokushisekela nokuphelelwa ithemba.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ongaziwa

•  Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ongaziwa ngenjabulo kuyinkomba yezinguquko ezinhle empilweni yakhe.
• Ngenkathi ebona umphuphi edubula umuntu ongaziwa emngcwabeni, angase athole izindaba ezibuhlungu ezizomethusa.
• Ukubuka umboni edubula umuntu ongaziwa ephusheni lakhe kuveza ubukhona bomuntu onobuzenzisi onobutha kuye angamazi kungenzeka ukuthi usondelene noma ungabangane.
• Ukudubula umuntu ongaziwa ephusheni lowesifazane oshadile kubonisa umzamo wakhe wokubhekana nalabo abahlasela ubumfihlo bakhe futhi azame ukudalula izimfihlo zakhe nomyeni wakhe.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula nokubulala umuntu

•  Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula nokubulala umuntu kungase kubonise ukuthi umphuphi uzobhekana nenkinga enkulu empilweni yakhe.
• Ukudubula umuntu ephusheni futhi kubangele ukufa kwakhe kungase kuxwayise umphuphi ngokuwela ogibeni oluhlelelwe yena.
• Obona ephusheni ukuthi ubulala umuntu amaziyo ngezinhlamvu, lokhu kuyinkomba yokushuba komehluko phakathi kwabo nokubusa kwemizwa yenzondo namagqubu ngakubo.
• Abanye osomthetho baya encazelweni yephupho lokudubula umuntu nokumlimaza ekufeni, njengoba engumuntu onokuqonda nokuqonda futhi ehlala ewufeza umgomo awufunayo.
• Ukubona umphuphi ebamba umuntu ephusheni lakhe futhi ambulale ngezinhlamvu kuyisibonakaliso sokufinyelela izixazululo eziqinile zokuqeda izinkinga nokuhlukana empilweni yakhe.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula othandekayo

•  Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu oseduze, njengabazali, kungase kubonise ukuhlubuka komboni nokwehluleka ukulalela imiyalo yabo.
• Ukudubula ingane eshadile ngesibhamu ephusheni kubonisa indlela enobudlova nenzima yokuyikhulisa.
• Ukubona umphuphi edubula umngane wakhe ephusheni kufanekisela ukumthuka kanye nokuvela kwengxabano phakathi kwabo efinyelela ukuncintisana.
• Ngokuqondene nokudubula umfazi ephusheni, umphuphi angase abonise ukulahlwa nokuhlukana.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu owaziwayo

Izazi zinezincazelo ezihlukene zephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu owaziwayo ngokwezinga lobuhlobo balo muntu:

•  Ukubona umphuphi edubula othile ezihlotsheni zakhe ephusheni, njengoba lokhu kungase kubonise ukuhlukunyezwa kwakhe nodumo lwakhe.
• Noma ubani obona ephusheni ukuthi udubula umuntu owaziwayo, khona-ke wenqaba imibono futhi uphikisana nezinkolelo nemibono yakhe.
• Ukudubula umuntu owaziwayo ephusheni ngokuvamile kubonisa ubudlelwano obunzima phakathi kwezinhlangothi ezimbili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo bomndeni noma ubungane.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu nokumlimaza

• Obona ephusheni edubula umuntu amshaye emzimbeni kuphume izinhlamvu kuyena usuke emduduza kulobu bunzima abhekene nabo.
• Lapho ebona umuntu edubula futhi elimaza esinye sezitha zakhe, uyozinqoba izitha zakhe.
• Ukuchazwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula umuntu ngemuva nokumlimaza ephusheni lowesifazane ongashadile oshadile kungase kubonise ukuthi isoka lakhe likude naye ngenxa yomhlaseli ofuna ukubahlukanisa.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudubula umuntu ofile

•  Ukuchazwa kwephupho lokudubula ubaba oshonile ephusheni kukhomba ukuthi uzothola ifa maduze.
• Uma owesifazane ongashadile ebona ukuthi udubula umuntu oshonile ephusheni lakhe esebenzisa isibhamu kuphela, uzongena ezinkingeni nasezinkingeni futhi kudingeke ukuthi athandazele ukuba abaleke ephephile.
• Ukudubula nokulimaza umuntu ofile, kodwa akazange afe, kufanekisela ukuthi umboni wenza isenzo esihle ukuze azuze ekuphileni kwangemva kokufa.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho mayelana nokudubula mina

•  Obonayo ukuthi uzidubula ngenhloso uyazidelela akasuthi ngesenzo sakhe njalo uyazikhuza.
• Kodwa uma umbonisi ebona ukuthi uzibulala ngezinhlamvu, uzizwa ecindezeleke kakhulu.
• Ebona umphuphi efunda ukudubula ephusheni lakhe futhi ezilimaza, angase angqubuzane nezindaba ezimbi.
• Ukuchazwa kwephupho lokuzidubula ephusheni kungase kubonise ukuwela esilingweni ngenxa yobunzima bezilingo nokulandela ukuthambekela komuntu nezifiso zakhe naphezu kokuzama ukulwa naye.

Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho ngokudutshulwa kodwa lingangishayi

Ososayensi baveze amakhulukhulu ezincazelo ezihlukene zephupho lokudutshulwa kodwa abazange bangishaye.Iningi labo libhekisela ezinkomba ezithembisayo, ezifana nalezi:

• Ukusinda ekudutshulweni ephusheni kowesifazane oshadile kuyinkomba yokuzivikela ebubini noma ebubini obumehlelayo.
• U-Ibn Sirin uthi uma umboni ebona othile emdubula wangamshaya, uzothola inkohliso yomunye walabo abasondelene naye.
• Ukubona umphuphi edubula umuntu ongazange amlimaze ephusheni kubonisa ukubamba ithuba legolide elishintsha inkambo yokuphila kwakhe.
• Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuhunyushwa kwephupho engangidutshulwa kodwa akuzange kungishaye kubonisa ukuhluzeka kombono kanye nokujabulela kwakhe ukuhlakanipha ekubhekaneni nezimo ezinzima nokuzixazulula ngokuthula ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa.
• Ukudubula isiboshwa ephusheni futhi ungasishayi kuwuphawu lokuthi uzokhululwa ekungabini nabulungisa, ubumsulwa bakhe buyovela, futhi inkululeko yaso izotholakala.
• Kuthiwa ukubona owesifazane oshadile kwesinye sezihlobo zakhe emdubula wangamshaya kuyizinkomba zokuthi uthole ifa elikhulu ngemuva kokushona kwakhe.
• Kodwa uma umfazi efakaza ephusheni lakhe umuntu ongaziwa edubula futhi ehluleka ukumshaya, khona-ke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi uzungezwe izingxabano, futhi kufanele aqaphele ezinyathelweni zakhe nasekusebenzelaneni kwakhe.