Uma owesifazane ephupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyamshada, ungakhathazeki, njengoba leli phupho libonisa uthando olukhulu nobudlelwane obuqinile phakathi kwabashadile. Iphupho lingase libonise impumelelo yemiklamo yezohwebo noma ukuthuthukiswa kwesimo sezezimali somphuphi kanye nomphuphi, futhi kungase kubonise ukunqoba ubunzima nobunzima obungavela ekuphileni komshado. Naphezu kokuzizwa kokucindezeleka noma ukudabuka ephusheni, kubonisa uthando lweqiniso phakathi kwabashadile nokubaluleka kokwakha ubuhlobo ngesikhathi samanje. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane kufanele abekezele futhi athembele kuNkulunkulu nomyeni wakhe, futhi asebenzele ukuqinisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo ngokukhulumisana, ukuqonda nokuhloniphana.

Kunabantu abaningi ababhekana nephupho elingaqondakali lokubona umlingani wabo eshada nenye indoda noma owesifazane. Uma ngiphuphe ukuthi umyeni wami ushade no-Ibn Sirin, kunencazelo ekhombisa ukuthi leli phupho libonisa ingozi umyeni abhekana nayo empilweni yakhe yobungcweti, okungase kuholele ekuhlukaneni kwabashade nabo.

Komunye umongo, leli phupho libhekwa njengesexwayiso sangaphambi kwesikhathi sokuba umyeni enze izinguquko ebuhlotsheni bakhe obungokomzwelo nobuchwephesha ngaphambi kokuba abhekane nezinkinga ezinkulu esikhathini esizayo.

Owesifazane oshadile, ngenkathi ekhulelwe, waphupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe wamshada, futhi leli phupho limenza azizwe ekhathazekile futhi esaba, futhi lingase liholele ngisho nesimo sokucindezeleka. Ukuchazwa kwaleli phupho kuncike ezintweni ezithile, njengobudlelwane bomshado kanye nezimo zokukhulelwa.Uma ukukhulelwa kuhamba kahle futhi zingekho izinkinga zempilo, iphupho libonisa ukuthi umyeni uyamthanda umkakhe futhi ufuna ukunakekelwa. yakhe futhi baqhubeke nobudlelwano babo. Kodwa uma ukukhulelwa kungumthombo wokukhathazeka nezinkinga zempilo, iphupho libonisa ukuthi umyeni uzizwa engazinzile futhi ufuna ukucinga impilo entsha. Kumelwe aqikelele ekujuliseni ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe futhi azame ukuqonda izizathu ezenze ukuba aphinde acabange ngomshado.Kungase kube nesizathu esicacile saleli phupho.

Ukuphupha indoda ishada nomkayo kanye nomuzwa wakhe wokucindezelwa ingelinye lamaphupho abangela ukukhathazeka nokudideka kunkosikazi. Uma owesifazane ebona ukuthi umyeni wakhe ushade nomunye wesifazane futhi ezizwa edabukile futhi ecindezelwe, asikho isidingo sokucasuka, kodwa kunalokho kufanele aqonde izincazelo ezingokomfanekiso zaleli phupho. Ukuphupha umyeni eshada nomunye kuyinkomba yempumuzo esondelayo kanye nokuqeda izinkinga nezinkinga abashade nabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuzwa womfazi wokucindezelwa nokudabuka phakathi nephupho ubonisa ukusekela kwakhe umyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, kufanele agxile ezenzweni ezinhle futhi asondele kuNkulunkulu, futhi kulokhu umyeni ohilelekile ephusheni uzozithola esondela kuNkulunkulu futhi ehlala kude nezithiyo.

Abesifazane abaningi babephupha ukuthi umyeni wabo ushada nomlingani wabo futhi bacela isehlukaniso ngenxa yalo mfazi wesibili. Ososayensi bahumusha leli phupho njengobufakazi bobudlelwano obuhle phakathi kwabashadile, inhlonipho nothando abahwebelana ngalo, nokuthi abashadile baphila impilo yomshado enhle kakhulu. Uma owesifazane elahlekelwa umyeni wakhe empeleni, leli phupho libonisa ukuthi uzizwa edabukile kakhulu futhi ephazamisekile ngokomzwelo. Uma umuntu oshadelwe nomyeni wakhe engamazi, lokhu kubonisa izingozi ezithile ebuhlotsheni bomshado. Kodwa ngokuvamile, leli phupho alibonisi lutho olubi, kodwa kunalokho libonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana iphila impilo yomshado ejabulisayo futhi iyathandana futhi iyahloniphana.

Iphupho lokubona umyeni womphuphi eshada naye ephusheni, ngenkathi engakhulelwe, kubhekwa njengenye yamaphupho aphethe izincazelo eziningi neziningi. Leli phupho lingase lifanekisela ubuhlobo obubuthakathaka phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, noma izingxabano zomshado, kodwa ayikho incazelo ecacile neqondile yaleli phupho, Ezimweni eziningi, kufanele lihunyushwe ngokuvumelana nezimo zamanje zomphuphi. Uma owesifazane oshadile ezizwa ekhathazekile ngenxa yaleli phupho, kufanele acabange ngesimo sobuhlobo nomyeni wakhe futhi azame ukuxazulula noma yikuphi ukungezwani ngaphambi kokufinyelela esimweni lapho umyeni wakhe emshada khona. Ngokuvamile, leli phupho alibangeli ukukhathazeka, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, lidinga ithemba nethemba lokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bomshado nokuxazulula zonke izinkinga ezihlobene nalo.

Owesifazane oshadile waphupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe washada no-anti wakhe, kodwa ingabe leli phupho libikezela ububi nokuhlukana? Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi iphupho mayelana nomyeni oshada nesihlobo kungase kubonise ukuthi kungenzeka izinkinga zomndeni kanye nokuntuleka kwesivumelwano phakathi kwabathintekayo.Lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yezinkinga eziningi zezimali noma ezingokomzwelo ezinqwabelana phakathi kwabashadile futhi ziholele ekukhungathekeni okuthile. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, ukuchazwa kwamaphupho akunembile futhi akubonisi ngokugcwele iqiniso.Ngakho-ke, akumelwe sithembele ekuchazeni kuphela, kodwa kunalokho sisebenze ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwabashadile futhi siqinisekise inkhulumomphendvulwano, ukwabelana ngezinkinga, nokusiza ukunqoba ubunzima. .

Umbono engiphuphe umyeni wami eshada nendodakazi yami ungomunye wamaphupho athinta kakhulu owesifazane oshadile, njengoba uphakamisa imizwa yokukhathazeka, ukungezwani nokwesaba ngaphakathi kuye, futhi umenza afune izincazelo nezincazelo zombono, futhi lo mbono ungahunyushwa ngezindlela ezihlukene ngokusho kwenye ingxenye.Izingane zabo nendlela yabo yokuthola injabulo nokunethezeka ngokwengqondo, futhi uma ebhekene nobunzima obuthile, kufanele afune isizathu salombono futhi acabange ngokusebenzisa izixazululo ezisizayo. ukuxazulula inkinga, ngaphezu kokuhlinzeka indawo enempilo nenethezekile kubantwana abancane, kanye nokulangazelela kwabo ukunakekela umndeni wabo uwonke.

Lo wesifazane waphupha umyeni wakhe eshada nowesifazane omuhle, futhi wayezibuza ukuthi ngabe lisho ukuthini leli phupho. Ngokusho kwabahumushi, leli phupho libonisa ukuthi kukhona ukwesaba nokungabaza engqondweni yowesifazane mayelana nobuhlobo bakhe nomyeni wakhe. Kungase kube nama-idiosyncrasies abazizwa bengakhululekile ngawo futhi uzizwe ukhathazekile ngenxa yalokho. Uma iphupho liphazamisa owesifazane, kungase kudingeke aqinisekise isimo sobuhlobo bakhe nomyeni wakhe futhi azame ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga ezikhona phakathi kwabo. Kubalulekile ukugcina ukwethenjwa, ukunakekela kanye nothando ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Ukubona iphupho ngomyeni wami eshada nawe ngenkathi ukhulelwe kubhekwa njengenye yamaphupho akhathazayo angase aphazamise abesifazane abashadile, njengoba lo mbono uwuphawu lwesimo esibi esingokwengqondo umphuphi abhekana nakho ngokoqobo. Ukukhulelwa kukhulisa ukudideka nokukhathazeka kwabesifazane, kubenza bazwele, futhi kuphinda kabili umthelela omubi wokubona kwabesifazane. Kuvela ukuthi leli phupho lingase libonise ukuntula ukuzethemba komphuphi kanye nokuqiniswa kokwesaba kwakhe okuqhubekayo nokungazinzi kwengqondo.Ngakho-ke, kufanele agxile ekuthuthukiseni isimo sakhe sengqondo futhi athole ukwesekwa nokuncika kumyeni wakhe namalungu omndeni, ukuze lokhu kuzobonisa kahle impilo yakhe engokomzimba kanye nesimo sokukhulelwa.

Ukubona iphupho lokuthi umyeni wami ushada nomngane wami oshadile kungenye yamaphupho angabangela ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka kowesifazane. Kuleli phupho, lo muntu angase acabange ukuthi umyeni wami uthanda omunye umuntu, futhi angase acabange ngokungathembeki emshadweni. Kodwa, i Ukuhunyushwa kwephupho umyeni wami eshada nentombi yami Kungase kwehluke kuye ngesimo somuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, umuntu akufanele aholwe kuphela indlela evamile yokuhumusha amaphupho. Kuyadingeka ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwefantasy neqiniso, nokukhomba izici ezithinta inkambo yamaphupho.

Umfazi ebona umyeni wakhe eshada ephusheni kuwubufakazi bothando lwakhe ngaye nokuthi uyathinteka kunoma yikuphi ukuhlukana okulula naye. Lo wesifazane waphupha umyeni wakhe eshada naye futhi kwamphatha kabi. Nokho, iphupho langempela kuleli cala liphethe ithemba lekusasa elijabulisayo eligcwele uthando. Ngakho-ke, uma ephupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe wamshada futhi ecasukile, lokhu kusho ukuthi uthinteka kakhulu othandweni lwakhe ngaye. Kumelwe esabe ukuba kude naye noma isiphi isithiyo ebuhlotsheni babo, futhi asebenzele ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakhe naye.

Owesifazane ebona umyeni wakhe eshada nowesifazane angamazi ephusheni kubhekwa njengephupho eliphakamisa ukukhathazeka nokwesaba, kodwa empeleni liphethe amabika obuhle nenjabulo. Ezimweni eziningi, lo mbono ukhombisa intuthuko empilweni yakho yomzwelo neyezezimali. Endabeni yombono wowesifazane oshadile, kubonisa ukuthi umyeni wakhe umthanda kakhulu futhi uzwa isidingo sokuhlukana nesimiso futhi athole okuhlangenwe nakho okusha kothando. Uma ungamazi owesifazane umyeni wakho ashade naye ephusheni, lokhu kungase kusho ukugcwaliseka kwamaphupho nezifiso zakho. Ngakho-ke, uma kwenzeka unombono walesi simo, kufanele uzethembe futhi uqhubeke nokusebenza kanzima ukufeza izinhloso zakho, njengoba lo mbono ungase ubonise ukuthi usendleleni efanele yokufeza amaphupho akho.

Kulo mbono, umphuphi waphupha umyeni wakhe eshada nowesifazane oshadile ayevele emazi. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi leli phupho alilona uphawu lokungathembeki, kodwa kunalokho liwumlayezo ovela ku-subconscious. Leli phupho lingase lihlobane ngokuqondile nobudlelwane obuhlukahlukene bomphuphi, futhi umfazi omusha embonweni angaba uphawu lwanoma ubani omunye oseduze nomphuphi. Uma umphuphi ezizwa enomona noma ekhathazekile ngabanye abantu empilweni yakhe, leli phupho lingase libe yisixwayiso kuye ukuba asingathe lolu daba ngokuqapha.

Owesifazane waphupha umyeni wakhe eshada naye, futhi akazange azizwe ecasukile ephusheni. Leli phupho lingelinye lamaphupho amahle akhombisa ukuthi uzothola ubuhle nokuziphilisa. Leli phupho libuye libonise ukwamukela komphuphi ngomyeni wakhe kanye nempilo yabo yomndeni ngokujwayelekile. Kodwa iphupho linezincazelo ezinembayo ezidinga ukuchazwa nokuchazwa. Uma owesifazane ebona ukuthi umyeni wakhe ushadile futhi umkhwenyana wayemuhle, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi kuningi okuhle okuzayo kumyeni nokuthi uzothola isikhundla nokukhushulwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi leli phupho liwubufakazi benjabulo yomshado nokuphila isikhathi eside phakathi kwabashadile.